When faced with opposition in the workplace, met with road blocks that halt your progress, or confronted with disappointment or betrayal, we hear that old familiar phrase...”it’s not personal, it’s just business”. The separation of business matters and personal feelings is to theoretically remind us that the world of “business” is about self-preservation, competition, and taking risks that will yield big rewards. So if you are cloaked in your emotions, you will not be able to successfully navigate this world. While there is certainly truth to this notion, I do find myself open to a different perspective.
It’s difficult to comprehend (especially when you’re in the thick of things) that if this circumstance or challenge is happening to me, affects me, and will more than likely change my direction, how can I not take it personal???? For me, when I disconnect the personal, I’m left with intolerance, a lack of patience, and true no-nonsense point of view. I’m not suggesting that any of us get out here and cry, yell, kick, scream or breakdown when an issue arises. Nor am I encouraging anyone to run from problems or internalize issues that are not your own. However, I am saying that when you feel a deeper connection to or responsible for a particular outcome, you are more devoted to seeing it through to successful results.
What would happen if we simply choose to change how we do business and allow ourselves to TAKE IT PERSONAL?
1) Be Bold, Courageous, and Committed-- Let’s not underestimate ourselves, think small, and ignore the vision that we’ve been given. As you know, this effort will not be easy. It requires work, harder work, and even more hard work.
2) Take personal care of yourself--Until you have the big dollars (and you will) and a larger staff, this work is all on you. Take care of your physical and emotional self so that you can have balance in your life. (Oh how I wish I could take more of my own advice with this one).
3) Choose wisely--Be careful of the people you have around you. Make sure they are trustworthy and want you to succeed.
4) Utilize your personal network--Competition is fine but I find it more beneficial to build partnerships with other women and even barter with other associates. The power of connectivity and community is tremendous! Let’s all tap in!
It’s worth a try to create a new formula for success when necessary. After all, it’s your name on the letterhead, cards, website, and social media accounts. So take it personal, because it is YOUR business!